Absolutely was here.
And absolutely moved forward.
There are several things to point out before I give an answer:
- There’s not a single process for everyone. In fact, the process is typically messy.
- This is very common and you’re not alone.
- This answer is from my experience and is super general, since I don’t know more about your situation.
Short background context:
When I first started out in life (let’s call it since I left highschool and entered the real world) I had a vague idea of what to do. I knew I didn’t want to go to college, and that I wanted to be something bigger. I felt this in my soul. I lived in Pass Christian, Mississippi as an atheist. My school pressured me to go to college (which I decided not to) and so did pretty much everyone else. I was recently diagnosed with clinical depression. My parents had money, but I was broke. I barely knew how to socialize with people, especially those of the opposite sex. I lived at my parents house. This is at age 17.
That was the start.
Where am I now?
My depression is long gone. I’m healthier than I’ve ever been. My grasp and understanding of life has drastically gone up. I’m smarter than I’ve ever been even without college (+ no student debt, because no college! lol). I’m a skilled and growing web developer who just started his own agency (and am just getting started). I have a team that relies on me. I live in Europe. I’ve been working remotely for the past 3 years in marketing and web development. I’m married to the most beautiful Ukrainian woman I’ve ever seen. And while I’m not all the way where I want to be yet, I’m at a place where I really enjoy my life and the process to getting to what I define as success. I’m 23.
At the start, I felt stuck.
In the middle, there were times I feel stuck.
Right now, I don’t feel stuck. In fact I feel like I actually know where I’m going and how to get there.
The middle part went something like this:
- Get a job, even if it’s shitty at first. If you already have a shitty job, great! Also, because it’s quarantine, you may have to put together a freelancing strategy, which will require a skill that you can do from anywhere with an internet connection and a laptop, like programming! (if you’re interested in learning programming / freelancing btw, I recommend googling Stefan Mischook and Clever Programmer)
- If you don’t already have one, buy a phone. You’re going to need it. If you do have one, great! If it’s a smart phone, delete every social media app and game on your phone, and download Audible. This will be a lifesaver.
- In your spare time, in the beginning you’re going to want to read a lot of non-fiction books to expand your perspective and see past yourself. I recommending buying these 5 books: 1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (for general self-development). 2. The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco (It’s a super straightforward book on logically thinking about execution, not a get rich quick scheme or mlm). 3. The Ultramind Solution by Dr. Mark Hyman (for mental health). 4. Great by Choice by Jim Collins. 5. The Artist’s Way by Julia Camron (to breakthrough creative blocks). Read more books than just these, but would definitely recommend starting here.
- If you haven’t already, open a bank account and get a debit card. Ask for them to not approve any purchases that cause your balance to go below zero. Also, open a savings account and store 10% of everything you make there from now until death. The point of this money is to be there as a financial pillow in case you get into some shitty situations. Also, the confidence you have from this security will never put you in a situation of desperation or dependence on other people’s money. Be smarter than I was here lol.
- Get to know yourself by journaling your daily, weekly, monthly, yearly experiences, and by making a single list of everything physical you own. Every single thing. Every sock. Etc. This will let you know the resources you own and have available.
- Reflect on what you don’t want in your life. Don’t lie to yourself here. Then think about the version of yourself you want to create, what things you want in your life, and probably the most important, WHAT TYPE OF PEOPLE you want in your life.
- To actually overcome the stuck feeling, the combination of knowing your resources, expanding your perception, then putting all of that into a new strategy for your life, and executing on that strategy you’ve built, regardless of how crazy (or not) it may seem to you, execute on it and continue learning from there 🙂
- Do step 7 over and over and over again (ideally as fast as possible) until you’re where you want to be.
That’s probably the most universal and most useful parts of my journey I know how to share. There’s a lot more I could share that’s not really relevant to your question, but essentially this was the process I went through to get to where I am now.
Strategizing and getting your mind onto paper (or a mind mapping app like Lucid Chart or Xmind) can really give you the something that’s beautiful: A solid plan that actually looks like it’ll work. There’s really nothing more inspirational than that.
Anyway, I hope this helps.